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A Short Love Letter on the 1st Night of Chanukah

Chag sameach to everyone celebrating Chanukah.  And happy holidays to all of you celebrating whatever is meaningful to your heart this time of year.  Especially marginalised queer & trans folks. May warmth & love & hope & kindness & gentleness & softness & understanding & self-acceptance show up as guests for your feasts & never… Continue reading A Short Love Letter on the 1st Night of Chanukah

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On Apologetic Disability

Last year, during a challenging experience of having to trial-and-error solutions to disability access while staying somewhere overnight, I realised I often exhibit an attitude I’ve started calling Apologetic Disability.  (When I talked this afterwards over with my spousefriend, who is a lifelong disability activist, she said that most disabled folks perform Apologetic Disability some… Continue reading On Apologetic Disability

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How to support a loved one dealing with (chronic and/or intense) pain

This list is grounded in my experiences of several decades of living with chronic illnesses, which bring both chronic pain and short-term episodes of intense pain. During that time I’ve experienced some not-so-useful support, and a lot of quite excellent support (due to: my learning what works & what doesn’t for me, talking with/reading other… Continue reading How to support a loved one dealing with (chronic and/or intense) pain