Let’s talk about cookies. Humans are social animals. We need an ongoing connection to others, and a sense of belonging in community in order to thrive. These needs are powerful enough, that if we’re not getting them met straight up, our subconscious will find sneaky ways for us to try to access belonging and connection,… Continue reading The (Potential) Ally’s Guide to Cookies
(I first wrote this piece in 2014, when I didn’t have a website and when there wasn’t (or, probably, I wasn’t aware of) much writing with this perspective — i.e. practical ideas on defeating rape culture — but am only publishing it now, with some changes/additions. Since writing it, I have encountered & read many more pieces… Continue reading 14 Ideas for Defeating Rape Culture
If you are reading this, you are likely a well-meaning person who wants to treat trans and gender-non-binary folks with respect, and facilitate the inclusion of folks of all genders in your community. In which case, here are some important things to consider: 1. A few key concepts (I won’t assume everyone reading is… Continue reading How to Actually Include Folks of All Genders
Liminal people Ever since I read Excommunicate Me from the Church of Social Justice — and then, a few weeks later, I’m a Transwoman, I Am in the Closet, I Am Not Coming Out — I’ve been thinking about how we treat liminal people in activist communities. Liminal people: those who are still becoming. Trans and… Continue reading On Liminal Kindness
Welcome again to Crip Sex Tips! Where we discuss sexuality and access negotiation for various disabilities from a first-hand knowledge perspective. (In future installments I’d like to write about sex & chronic pain, and sex & PTSD. And I will be negotiating to publish guest posts by writers who have personal experience with disabilities that… Continue reading Crip Sex Tips #2: Autism
Hello, and welcome to Crip Sex Tips. Ages ago I spent a long time looking for information about sexuality relevant to my disabilities — and didn’t find it. (Seriously. Hours and hours scouring the internet. And — crickets.) After much trial and error, and collecting tiny snippets of info from various sources, and many conversations… Continue reading Crip Sex Tips #1: MCS
So, it’s that time of year again. Time to take stock of the ways the dominant culture crushes all the parts of our selves and our spirits that don’t fit with dominant paradigms, and makes us feel ashamed and wrong to be in the world with/in the unique ways that we are. Recently, I’ve been… Continue reading Inhabit Your Weirdness*
